Guests enjoying a traditional Hawaiian luau at sunset

Your Perfect Luau Evening

Essential Planning Tips for an Unforgettable Hawaiian Experience

Kalani Miller, local Hawaiian culture expert

Written by a Local Cultural Expert

"Before You Go" Practical Tips

Now that you have an idea of which luau might be right for you, let's cover the practical details. Knowing what to expect, what to wear, and how to participate respectfully will make your evening even more enjoyable.

A little preparation goes a long way in ensuring you have a seamless and memorable luau experience. From what to wear to understanding the evening's flow, these tips will help you make the most of your ʻahaʻaina.

What to Wear: Aloha Casual Explained

There's no strict dress code at most luaus, but the general guideline is "aloha casual" or "resort casual." Think comfortable, colorful, and tropical.

👔 For Men

An aloha shirt is the perfect choice, paired with nice shorts (like khakis) or slacks. It's the quintessential island look that's both festive and respectful.

• Aloha shirt or polo
• Nice shorts or slacks
• Sandals or casual shoes

👗 For Women

A floral print sundress, a flowing maxi dress, a traditional muʻumuʻu, or a stylish sarong are all excellent options.

• Sundress or maxi dress
• Muʻumuʻu or sarong
• Flat sandals or wedges

Important Footwear Note

Leave the high heels at the hotel! Most luau grounds are grassy or sandy, making heels impractical and uncomfortable. Flat sandals, wedges, or what we call slippahs (flip-flops) are the way to go. A light jacket or shawl is always a good idea as evenings by the ocean can get breezy once the sun goes down.

Understanding the Timeline of Events

Most luaus follow a similar flow and last about three hours, usually coinciding with sunset. Here's a typical timeline:

5:00

Arrival & Welcome

You'll check in and be greeted with a warm "Aloha!" This is when you'll receive your lei—which could be made of shells, kukui nuts, or fresh flowers—and often a complimentary welcome drink, like a Mai Tai. A photographer will usually be on hand to take your picture with some of the performers.

5:30

Pre-Show Activities & Sunset

This is your time to mingle and immerse yourself in the culture. Many luaus offer hands-on activities like learning to weave a headband from palm fronds, getting a temporary Polynesian-style tattoo, or taking a quick hula lesson. This is also when the ʻimu ceremony often takes place—a must-see event.

6:30

The Feast (Ka ʻAi)

The buffet opens! You'll be invited to fill your plate with all the delicious food. Enjoy your meal against the backdrop of a stunning Hawaiian sunset, usually accompanied by live, gentle Hawaiian music.

7:30

The Main Show & Finale

As dessert is served, the main show begins. You'll be taken on a journey through the stories of Hawaiʻi and Polynesia, culminating in the spectacular and thrilling Samoan fire-knife dance finale.

Tipping Etiquette in Hawaiʻi

It's important to remember that Hawaiʻi is a U.S. state, and tipping customs are the same as on the mainland. The cost of living here is very high, and many in the service industry rely on tips to make a living. While some luaus may include gratuity in the ticket price, many do not.

Bartenders

It is customary to tip your bartender $1-2 per drink, even at an open bar. They work hard to keep the tropical drinks flowing all evening.

Servers & Performers

If you had a dedicated server who provided excellent service, or if you were particularly moved by the performers, a tip of $10-$20 per couple is a generous and much-appreciated gesture.

✅ Pre-Luau Checklist

Book 2-4 weeks in advance
Check dress code requirements
Bring cash for tips
Arrive 15 minutes early
Bring light jacket/shawl
Charge camera/phone

🎒 What to Bring

Light jacket or shawl
Cash for tipping
Camera or phone
Confirmation email
Open mind & appetite

📖 Luau Guide

Introduction

Getting started

Cultural Traditions

History & meaning

Best Luau Reviews

Detailed comparisons

Planning Guide

Current page

🔗 Official Booking

Hawaiʻi Loa Luau

Fairmont Orchid Resort

Mauna Kea Luau

Mauna Kea Beach Hotel

Island Breeze Luau

King Kamehameha Hotel

Attending with Aloha: How to Be a Respectful Guest

A luau is a celebration of Hawaiian culture, and attending with an attitude of respect and openness will enrich your experience and show your aloha for the people sharing their traditions with you.

Participate with Joy

When they invite you to learn a few hula steps or try your hand at a traditional game, join in! Your enthusiasm is part of the fun and is always welcomed.

Listen with Your Heart

During the chants and storytelling portions of the show, give the performers your full attention. They are sharing a piece of their heritage with you.

Respect the ʻĀina (Land)

Treat the beautiful luau grounds with care. Use the trash receptacles and be mindful not to damage any plants or landscaping.

Eat with an Open Mind

Be adventurous and try a little bit of everything on the buffet, especially the poi! It's a sign of respect and appreciation for the food that has been prepared for you.

Say "Mahalo": A simple "thank you" in Hawaiian is a powerful gesture. Say it to the servers, the artisans, and the performers. Your appreciation will be felt and returned in kind.

Finding Your ʻAhaʻaina

In the end, the "best" Big Island luau isn't about a single rating—it's about the one that feels right for you. It's about finding the experience that resonates with your spirit. Whether you're drawn by the promise of a gourmet feast on the Kohala Coast, a deep dive into history at the foot of Mauna Kea, or a high-energy show for your ʻohana on the grounds where a king once walked, there is an ʻahaʻaina waiting for you.

My hope is that you go with an open heart, ready to listen, to learn, and to share in the celebration. Be present, savor the flavors, and let the stories wash over you. That's where you'll find the true spirit of aloha, the same spirit I remember from my uncle's backyard all those years ago. Enjoy the feast.